It seems like each week another high profile celebrity is passing at the moment so I thought it would be good to explore the stages of grief and how hypnotherapy can help you if you are coping with death in Hertfordshire. It can be easy to forget these stages are responses to feelings or emotions and they can be fluidly experienced one after the other in a short space of time.
It’s sometimes thought that it takes a set amount of time to overcome each stage but this can differ from person to person. You might even skip a stage or two only to find you come back to it at another time, usually when you least expect it. Having friends and family you can speak to can be invaluable, if you feel you cannot speak to those around you it might be time to find a therapist or professional who can support you through your difficult time.
The first stage of grief and coping with death in Hertfordshire is denial; this knee jerk reaction helps us cope with the shock of our loss. You may find you question why this has happened to you, how you can go on or even why you should go on. The shock will wear off in its own time but initially these emotions help us to experience our feelings of grief and cope with the loss in our own time, at our own pace in a way that we can handle. You could also feel a numbness or lack of feelings at this stage but as the denial fades feelings that you might have suppressed will begin to surface.
Usually we are told to control and manage our anger but during the grieving process it’s important that you express your anger in a way that will help the healing process. Feel the anger and explore it, this is the only way to work through this stage and this will help dissipate the potentially overwhelming feeling. There will be other emotions under that anger but the anger is the easiest to deal with at this point. You might find you are angry with the situation, or people who you feel have let you down during the process or at yourself for not doing more or any number of other people or situations. Anger is usually suppressed but in this situation it can be used to anchor you in the now, it is a strength that can give you structure in a difficult time.
“What if” and “should’ve, would’ve, could’ve” thought patterns might creep in at this point in the process. What if we could have seen there was something wrong, if only I’d been there, I could have changed things. It is normal to try to take some control of the situation in this way but these thoughts will only contribute to your feelings of hopelessness. This might also be the time that you make a bargain with your god or deity “If I’m devout maybe you will bring them back to me” or “if I pray every day I can protect myself or other loved ones from the same fate”. You will find fault in yourself in this phase as you go over what you could have done differently. This keeps you in the past as you try to negotiate your way out of the pain and discomfort you experience as you are coping with death in Hertfordshire.
This can be one of the harder stages to cope with on your own. The grief can feel like it has entered your life on a deeper level and you might feel it will last forever. You could find yourself just going through the motions as you live in a fog of despair and even withdraw from life. This is a natural response to a life changing experience and is a necessary step along the path of the grieving process, as much as it hurts and makes you feel very low, you need to experience it before you can fully process what’s happened.
The final stage of coping with death in Hertfordshire is acceptance. This won’t mean that you’re “Ok” or happy that your loved one is gone, it simply means you have accepted the reality that the person is gone and recognise this is a permanent change to your life. It might be that you feel trapped in the anger or denial and never get to this stage. It is usually at this time that we make our peace with the situation and understand that the person cannot be replaced but you are now ready to make new connections and begin to live again.How can hypnotherapy help?
It is common to struggle with overcoming feelings of loss or bereavement when you are coping with death in Hertfordshire, but hypnotherapy can assist you in coping and lessen the negative feelings. If you have lost a loved one you might not want to burden other grieving family members, therapy is a good place to talk about your feelings and give you space to talk about your loss in a safe environment without worry that you will be misinterpreted or judged. We can help you find a way to work through your loss and deal with the stages of grief as they arise. Perhaps you are struggling with:
- Guilt or anger
- Blaming yourself or others
- Anxiety around living without the bereaved
- Worrying about financial insecurity
- Worrying about others or yourself dying
- Feeling stressed out or overwhelmed
- Fear about your own health
- Feeling lost in the world
- Losing control of your emotions
- Lose confidence or self esteem
- Nervous nail biting
- Feeling vulnerable
- Deep sadness
- Weight gain or loss
- Sickness and fatigue
- Loss of concentration
- Panic attacks
- Insomnia or sleep irregularities
Using relaxation techniques and positive suggestions hypnotherapy can help you focus your energy in a relaxed and enjoyable way and help you find new coping strategies to support you through the grieving process. Healing can begin once you allow yourself to feel the grief as it arises without resistance and we can help you to do this in a controlled way. We will use a bespoke combination of hypnotherapy, NLP and CBT tailored to your challenges and specific needs to create a lasting positive change.
Contact us today on 01438 358174 to discuss how we can help you as you are coping with death in Hertfordshire, today. It would be our pleasure to create a bespoke therapy program just for you, tailored to your needs with your challenges in mind.