Making a New Year’s resolution is a very old tradition that is still widely practiced today. It’s a chance to make a promise to yourself that you will make a commitment to an act of self improvement.
This can be a promise you make to yourself privately or something that you tell people about; it could even be something that you work towards as a competition with a friend or loved one. Each style of resolution has its benefits, there is no right or wrong way to practice a new year’s resolution it’s whatever works for you.
So are you making a New Year’s resolution in Hertfordshire this year? Perhaps you start each year full of optimism and with every intention of sticking to your goal and achieving it no matter what, only to fold after a few days and go back to your limiting habit or behaviour. Or maybe you’ve tried to change your habits with will power alone and find you’re not getting as far as you want to. It is common to focus on what it is you are trying to change instead of the benefits of the change.
There are many different goals to choose from, some common goals include:
- Stop smoking
- Lose weight
- Get fit / join a gym
- Manage stress
- Give up anger
- Cut out caffeine
- Increase confidence or self esteem
- Socialise more, or with more ease
- Log off social media and putting down the smart phone
- Stop swearing
- Be more mindful
- Self improvement through study
- Read more
- Learn a new skill
Knowing what you’re working away from is a great starting point but if this is the focus of your goal you will find it very difficult to make lasting changes. Think about what you will gain from achieving your goal. How will your life be improved? Will the change benefit anyone else? It’s easier to achieve a goal if you’re in the right frame of mind to enjoy the change, so what will you gain by making the commitment to change today?
Break down your resolution, is it a SMART goal?
Even the simplest of resolutions will need some planning and thought, ask yourself these simple questions to see how SMART your goal is. Is the goal:
Specific – What is it that you want to achieve? Can you state this in a positive way? It is easy to state what you don’t want “I will not eat chocolate today” will make you constantly think of chocolate as your mind needs to think about chocolate to stay away from it which then creates a sub conscious craving for chocolate. “I look forward to being that size/weight I want” or “I want to eat healthily today” will set your mind up to think about healthy foods without the subconscious want for foods you are trying to avoid.
Measurable – How will you measure your success? This could include the way you feel or the way you behave as well as changed habits.
Attainable – How will you accomplish your goal? What will you need to do to get there and is it really worth the effort? Going to the gym every day could be an unattainable goal if you have a full time job and a family to manage, creating a plan that works with your life and not against it will help you achieve your goals.
Realistic – Is the goal challenging yet still attainable within the time frame? Taking on more than you can realistically cope with will stall your plans of change.
Time framed – Give yourself a date to come back and evaluate your progress. If you are losing weight think about the whole amount you want to lose and then think about when you would realistically be able to achieve this. You can then break this goal down into months, weeks and then days to give you complete control over your resolution.
Should you share?
Now you need to decide if you will be sharing your goal with others. It is usually thought that by sharing your goals with others you are more likely to follow through and achieve through a sense of accountability and having to admit if you ‘fall off the wagon’ and go back to your previous habits.
This TED talk by Derek Silvers explains why you should keep your goals to yourself until you have achieved them, or to set up limits within your sharing. Derek’s example of how to do this is great.
“What can we do? Well, you could resist the temptation to announce your goal. You can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgement brings, and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing. But if you do need to talk about something, you can state it in a way that gives you no satisfaction, such as, “I really want to run this marathon, so I need to train five times a week and kick my ass if I don’t, okay?”“
How can hypnotherapy help?
Hypnotherapy helps you to refocus your energy in a relaxed and enjoyable way. We will discuss your goal including all the reasons you would like to change and how this would benefit your life. With this information we can create a bespoke plan incorporating these specific goals into your hypnotherapy plan which we will also record so you can practice at home.
We can help you achieve your goals in a stress free way, without the need to rely on will power alone using a combination of Hypnotherapy, NLP and CBT that is suited to your requirements. Using this approach ensures your conscious and sub conscious responses are working towards the same goal.
Contact us today on 01438 358174 to discuss how we can help you with your new year’s resolution in Hertfordshire, today!